Shame Can’t Be Vitamised

So you lose 60 kilos, which is a fantastic achievement! You have worked so hard, only to find yourself in the same cycle of consuming non-nutritious food, in liquid form. 

 

You receive the temporary joy food brings you, but an overwhelming shadow of shame lurks — fat shame. A cruel self-deprecating habit that is often reinforced by miseducation and the ignorance of others. It’s time for change and understanding. Your thoughts form beliefs, validated by the presumptions or perceptions of either ourselves or others. 

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This is not an uncommon story, and we would like to paint you a picture. We want to talk about Jennifer. This is not her real name, it has been changed for privacy reasons.  However, her pain, her trauma and her victory are very real. 

 

Jennifer is 44 years old, and is a sensational sister, partner friend and mother of three. Jennifer is going through perimenopause in this current stage of her life but still maintains her busy lifestyle and career with enthusiasm. What Jennifer doesn’t realise is that on a subconscious level, she has an emotional attachment to food because of a variety of reasons. Jennifer has in desperation, tried every diet, pill, exercise there is, but nothing seems to work, and the mental cycle of shame and negative self-talk ensues and grows. So, she saves up and books in for bariatric surgery. The problem is, however, regardless of the fat removed, or the stomach surgery, the neuro pathways in her brain that formed many years ago, are still there. She has no mental scaffolding for what comes next. After surgery, the weight starts to go off, but the emotional attachments, beliefs and perceptions still exist. 

 

She starts vitamising the food she finds to nurturing, along with an array of habitual processes and actions steeped deeply within. Chocolate, even pizza turned to liquid to fill a need. 

 

She is at a very great risk here of physical harm post surgery, emotional trauma and a failed surgery. Jennifer comes to us. The program she begins starts to educate Jennifer, understand herself, unlocking the deeply held triggers and reasons. Then begins the process of creating new thoughts, patterns and beliefs. Then comes empowerment, understanding, self belief and success. 

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Bariatric Surgery, a broad term used to identify weight loss procedures such as sleeve gastrectomy, is becoming more accessible for people trying to lose weight in Australia. 

 

According to the AIHW, From 2014-2015, there were 9.7 weight loss surgery separations per 10,000 of the population, with Western Australia with the highest rate at 17.3. Furthermore, around 18,000 (79%) weight loss separations were for female patients and 4,800 for male patients. 

 

This growth in weight loss surgery can be linked-to ABS statistics (2017-18), which state nearly two-thirds of Australian adults are overweight or obese, over 12.5million people!

 

There are physical and mental problems that can derail the success of weight loss before and after bariatric surgery. What is most alarming, however, is the unsuccessful rate of these weight-loss surgeries due to the lack of mental health.

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A lack of postoperative therapeutic follow up by a professional can lead to failure, heartache and even life-threatening physical side effects just like Jennifer. 

 

This is extremely unfortunate given the postsurgical psychological challenges the procedure elicits because of an inadequate psychological support system. Which may result in body image concerns, mood changes, stress, substance use, and weight regain. 

 

“There is nothing worse for a patient than to go through the trauma of a physical surgery on their stomach, lose 60 kilograms and then gain it all again. Why does this happen? Because they put a patch on the hole in the dingy without finding out why the dingy keeps smashing into the rocks. We are the lighthouse. We shine a light on why the mind is triggering behaviours. Then we retrain it, reform it and revitalise the patient,” says Julia. 

 

According to a report from James Cook University psychological support for the mental health needs of obese patients, post-surgery requires more attention. 

 

The psychological impact of having bariatric surgery has received less attention. This study investigated whether patients who receive psychological counselling have better physical and mental well-being post-bariatric surgery. Patients who attended between one and four counselling sessions had significantly higher mental well-being.

 

Weight regain could be reduced with the right mental help before and after surgery, equalling a better quality of life. There is also the new you waiting. How will you feel with a different body and changing attitudes? Get the scaffolding ready to be successful. We are all only human, and you don’t have to walk the path alone. We are here to help you feel empowered, confident and reassured. 

Please reach out today and choose success, choose to make a change, because you deserve your very best life.

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Mental Health Preventing Weight-Loss Surgery Success

Bariatric Surgery, a broad term used to identify weight loss procedures such as sleeve gastrectomy, is becoming more popular for people trying to lose weight in Australia. 

Without psychological help before and after surgery, these procedures have been proven to lead to mental illness and weight regain. 

According to the AIHW, From 2014-2015, there were 9.7 weight loss surgery separations per 10,000 of the population, with Western Australia with the highest rate at 17.3. Furthermore, around 18,000 (79%) weight loss separations were for female patients and 4,800 for male patients. 

This growth in weight loss surgery can be linked-to ABS statistics (2017-18), which state nearly two-thirds of Australian adults are overweight or obese, over 12.5million people!

Gastrectomies are now becoming the last resort for people suffering from health conditions due to obesity, trying in desperation to achieve the quality of life they desire. However, despite the positives presented in this surgery for reducing weight, there is a lack of focus on what can go wrong, particularly if mindset patterns are linked in with the weight issue. 

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There are physical and mental problems that can derail the success of weight loss before and after bariatric surgery. 

Bodies post-surgery are not able to absorb all the nutrients in food, with most people thinking the more nutritionally healthy  they eat, the better. However, this is wrong. To eat the right way, for example, using a gastric bypass diet like Roux-en-Y, you also need to consume the correct vitamin and mineral supplements.

What is most alarming, however, is the unsuccessful rate of these weight-loss surgeries due to mental health. 

A study in 2017 by the Current Obesity Reports, ‘Psychological Aspects of Bariatric Surgery as a Treatment for Obesity’ found that there is a higher prevalence of psychological co-morbidities in people who seek bariatric surgeries. There is a higher rate of people getting this surgery with mood disorders, psychological distress, eating disorders, anxiety, alcohol use, personality disorders and low self-esteem. 

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Now with a drastic change like Bariatric surgery, where a gastric band is added, or part of your stomach is removed, change in thought patterns are required so you can align your beliefs and self talk with your goals.

A lack of postoperative psychological follow up can lead to failure, heartache and even life threatening physical side effects. This is extremely unfortunate given the “postsurgical psychological challenges the procedure elicits” because of an inadequate psych support system. Often resulting in body image concerns, mood changes, stress, substance use, and weight regain. 

We often get calls from distressed patients who are vitamizing their food into liquid for emotional comfort.

Ice cream and even pizza, or chocolate. Thousands of dollars being spent on surgery only to risk physical damage to the internal organs is no fun and dangerous. Often the reasons lurking beneath are not simple and require the help of a professional to gain control over and renew the possibility of success. Doctors refer patients to us post surgery to help them address habits and attitudes, retrain thought patterns and change. We are passionate about helping you achieve your goal and our success stories are inspiring. Re-patterning the brain is possible and we see the positive outcomes daily. 

The study suggests that people can lose drastic weight and appear to have positive physical health improvements post-op. 

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Weight regain could be reduced with the right mental help before and after surgery, equalling a better quality of life. There is also the new you waiting. How will you feel with a different body and changing attitudes? Get the scaffolding ready to be successful. We are all only human, you don’t have to walk the path alone. We are here to help you feel empowered, confident and reassured.  CHANGE IS A PHONE CALL AWAY. 

Need help? Call today on 0412 810 078 to make your best life changes happen TODAY.

 

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Anxiety of a Risk Taker

Julia Lorent, interviews Jaemin Frazer, entrepreneur, podcaster and personal development expert. 

The downsides of being somewhat of a risk taker with a with an entrepreneurial spirit are that it seems one has to manage a seemingly never-ending sea of uncertainty. So where did the anxiety come from? 

I’m sure there are just as many costs involved in being risk-averse, but when I decided to back myself, follow my gut and launch into business 9 years ago, I certainly underestimated some of the mental and emotional impacts of stepping out.

In fact, I only lasted 3 years before I needed a 12-month sabbatical because I found myself overwhelmed with anxiety. I handed the operations over to my business partner and checked out.

Interestingly, the sabbatical year was initially incredibly confronting.

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I went from doing everything to doing nothing overnight. To my surprise, that only increased the anxiety! Yet, in the process of holding the space for myself and not going back to my business until I’d solved the anxiety problem, I learned some wonderfully valuable lessons that have served me well ever since.

Anxiety needs a back story to survive.

Contrary to popular opinion, I’m not convinced that anxiety is a condition that you simply have to survive or endure. It doesn’t come out of nowhere. You are not broken. What’s more, the source of your anxiety is not strange, random or unknowable. There is always a reason, an underlying belief, fear or insecurity that has created the anxiety response to something in your reality.

If there was no limiting belief, then it just doesn’t make any sense to be anxious.

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Anxiety always flows from a story of inadequacy. At a deep level, you are insecure about not being enough for the challenges you are facing. This leaves you feeling incapable of doing what needs to be done and then the only thing left to do it be anxious.

Therefore, the aim of the game is to live out of a story where to be anxious just doesn’t make sense.

Only focus on the next thing.

Former Australian opening batsman Justin Langer defines mental toughness as the ability to just focus on the next thing. The last ball has already passed, and the fast bowler you are afraid of is not on until the next over, but right now all you need to focus on is the very next ball. Be totally present for the next thing.

When I am worried about the challenges of tomorrow before I go to sleep, my simple instruction to myself is to focus on the next thing I need to do – which is to get some peaceful sleep. Once I have completed that job, I’m allowed to focus on the next thing I need to do. One thing at a time. With this strategy, there is no room for anxiety.  It just doesn’t make any sense to be anxious if all I am focused on is the current task right in front of me and I believe that I am capable of completing it successfully.

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Change the language

Susan Jeffers in her book “Embracing Uncertainty” says that if we tie our happiness to things working out the way we want, then we are perpetually bound to disappointment. Why tie happiness to matters outside our control? It is still crucial to be very clear about what we want, but we need to work out how to be happy because of who you are, not just when things go the way we want them to.

To be anxiety free, it is crucial to cut the cord between your happiness and your outcomes. This starts with the language you use with yourself.

I have two mantras that I find particularly useful to win the game with anxiety:  – “Whether this works out or not, I still deeply love and accept myself.” .”All I need is within me now. I am a good person, a creative person, an intelligent person. I have no idea what will happen tomorrow, but when I get there, I know I will work it out, just like I have every other day of my life till now.”  This means I am able to totally pour my best energy and effort into what I am doing and then let go of the need to control what is outside of my control. In this story, anxiety makes zero sense.

Jaemin Fraser Anxiety Risk Taker

Jaemin Frazer featured author

Jaemin Frazer is an Australian personal development expert and is one of the leading voices globally in dealing with personal insecurity.

Jaemin is the founder of The Insecurity Projectt, the voice behind the popular one minute coach radio segment featured on stations all around Australia, author of “Elegantly simple solutions to complex people problems, and soon to be released “Unhindered – How to be free from insecurity before you are 40.”

He specializes in helping 35-40-year-old entrepreneurs eradicate insecurity so they can show up to life unhindered by doubt, fear and self-limiting beliefs.

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Intuition- Biological Superpower or Woo Woo?

Trust yourself, know yourself, you have heard it all right?

So what about intuition? That little old niggle, the vibe, the “gut feeling” is it all woo-woo or is it a biological superpower?

In my field of work, assisting people in letting go of negative thinking and enabling positive-thought processes is instrumental in helping people live their best life. A part of this is educating and retraining people so their natural instincts can kick back in again. So the answer is yes intuition has a functional place in our lives and is a biological superpower!

Three decades of cognitive science research have demonstrated that humans are an intuitive species.

In fact, according to a study by Coley and Tanner in 2012 we humans display a collection of biological entities, they call them regularities of cognitive construals. The report explains: ” A cognitive construal is an informal, intuitive way of thinking about the world. It might be a set of assumptions, a type of explanation, or a predisposition to a particular type of reasoning. Three such cognitive construals—teleological thinking, essentialist thinking, and anthropocentric thinking—are common themes spanning research on intuitive biological thought.”

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They are not alone, Brene Brown, the author of five No.1 New York Times best-selling books and research professor into human behavior says “Intuition is not a single way of knowing – it’s our ability to hold space for uncertainty and our willingness to trust the many ways we’ve developed knowledge and insight, including instinct, experience, faith, and reason.”

Your intuition is the sum of all your experiences, your perceptions, and filters.

Trusting yourself to use this knowledge which directs itself into a more finite distinct sensation, often presenting as a “gut feeling.” Some of the most successful people in the world are renown for honing in on and using their intuition. Why? Because it is more accurate than another person’s perspective of your life. When we listen to other people’s opinions of our life or direction, we can become powerless and lose our ability to be intuitive. “I rely far more on gut instinct than researching huge amounts of statistics,” wrote Richard Branson in one of his memoirs. “I tend to make up my mind about people within thirty seconds of meeting them.”

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So how do we do it?

It sounds simple, but practice does make perfect.  Learning to trust yourself is essential to live an authentic life — the word authentic means: not a copy, genuine. So if you are to have a genuine life true to your ideals and journey, your inner compass is very important.

Your instincts and intuitive gears are about building your self- trust, a muscle if you will. The more you use them and test them, the more you begin to understand the feelings, their accuracy and gauge with a fine point the directions to take in life or the sense you get about a situation.

While it is good to talk to someone and bounce ideas off them, ensure it is someone non-bias who has no ulterior motive in their connection or can be impacted by your decision making, as ultimately their opinion may be influenced by their filters and perceptions of you and your life.

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When we experience positive outcomes from actions we take, new neural pathways develop to support this action.

Do something positive enough times, and it becomes second nature. This goes for intuition. Feel it, know it, practice it and if you need help or want an unbiased person to talk to- click here to make an appointment.

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When you Change Your Mind, you will, Change Your Life

Have you ever wondered why we spend more time on our physical health than we do on our emotional and psychological health? I have! As a transformational therapist I see the ramifications of the neglect in this area every day with my clients, friends and family. Hell, even myself. We are all guilty of focusing on looking good, having the best house in the street, the latest car, getting trim, toned, six packs etc etc, you get the idea.

We service our cars regularly because if we don’t, they develop problems that will sometimes render them unable to operate properly, if at all. But when was the last time you had a service on your emotional or psychological health and well being? Interesting question isn’t it?.

It is the ignorance of the lack of importance we place on this issue that eventually leaves us unable to cope when we face life changing and life challenging events. Then when we feel desperate and defeated, sometimes feeling stuck in an emotional spiraling abyss, only then do we seek help and education.

Its my mission to change this thought process.

Our Brains are truly amazing. In order for permanent change to happen, you need to rewire your brain, your mindset, regardless of what issue you need help with. You will learn the skills and strategies required for permanent change in behaviours and emotions that may have kept you stuck, overwhelmed and feeling helpless.

These programs are designed to empower you to reach beyond your limits so that you can truly live your potential.

Your thoughts control your life, what are you thinking right now? Would you want that to be permanent. Oftentimes instead of focusing on what we want we are concentrating on exactly what we don’t want and just getting more of the same. I am here to help you change those thoughts, to step out of the thought bubble that has kept you stuck.

Making your emotional and psychological health and well being your first priority is the most important and life changing thing you can do for yourself and those that love you.